I have read that it is a culture quirk when it comes to how people view "time". Do you consider arriving at 8 am for an 8 am appointment on time, early, or late?
My family arrives 30 minutes early to everything. We were always the first people in the movie theater We were the first ones in the door for church. We were the ones waiting in the parking lot for school to open. We are early birds.
My husbands family views time as flexible. They can be on time, or an hour late, and you just never know when to expect them. We have gone to many resteraunts and had to order multiple appetizers so they wouldn't kick us out while we waited...
However, a newly wed named Julianne is really struggling with her in-laws. She told everyone to arrive at 2pm for Christmas dinner. Her entire family was at her house at 2pm for Christmas dinner and 2:30 the table was set, the food was ready, the ham was out of the oven and ready to be carved... but her inlaws were no where to be found. She finally, at 3, started feeding people because her family was HUNGRY and up in arms. They viewed the lateness as RUDE.
Her inlaws opperate on their own time clock. The first of her inlaws showed up 2 hours late, at 4pm. The rest of her inlaws showed up at 6 pm. Her inlaws were hurt that they ate without them!!!
What a mess.
Well, Here is My Advice:
Next year, say that you are having Christmas dinner at 4 pm to your family. Tell your inlaws that you are having christmas dinner sharp at 1 pm. Hope for the best.
Time is a family trait and you will not change them, you can just try to work around them.
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